K-Notes | Unfoldearning with Kaustav
Being Normal is the New Goal - because every normal day spent efficiently builds extraordinary lives…
Engineer → Teacher → Coach → Creator. 14 years of my pursuit in unpacking why conventional self-development fails us. Now, I create the science & experience-backed notes I needed then. Let's build your toolkit. The objective is to unlearn & learn to ensure that nobody is held back by the unexamined rules about success and growth
K-Notes is the channel I wish I had at 25. I break down self-development using science, facts, and hard-earned experience—no toxic positivity, just actionable notes to help you question the stereotypes and design a life on your own terms.
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K-Notes | Unfoldearning with Kaustav
The Anger Lie. Why You’re Faking Your Emotions (and how to stop)
Is anger a spontaneous emotion or a tool we choose to use?
In this episode of unfoldlearning, we dive deep into the uncomfortable but liberating truth that anger is a fabricated emotion we use to achieve a goal. Based on a radical idea from the book, "The Courage to Be Disliked," we explore how you're not a victim of your anger, but rather the architect of it.
Your roommate left a mess. Someone cut you off in traffic. The familiar heat rises in your chest... but what if that isn't real? What if you're not reacting, but rather choosing to be angry to make someone submit to your will? We break down the philosophy of teleology, which argues that our actions are guided by purpose, not our past.
Learn how to recognize the "Anger Lie" and discover the true path to freedom. By understanding that anger is a means to an end, you can stop using it as a tool for manipulation and start living a life of serenity and power.
What you'll learn in this episode:
- The core philosophy behind "The Courage to Be Disliked" and its perspective on anger.
- How we use anger as a tool to intimidate and make others submit.
- Why we are not victims of our emotions but rather choose them.
- Practical strategies to manage anger by choosing different goals: prioritizing calm, conversation, compromise, and mutual respect.
Join me, Kaustav as we challenge the way you think about anger and empower you to become the master of your emotional world.
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